So now that we’re halfway through January, do you feel your initial motivation slowly waning? You start falling back into your old habits because let’s face it – old habits die hard. You find yourself grasping at straws, wondering how to make 2018 your year, rather than a continuation of 2017.
Planning is the secret answer to this recipe for success. I will be the first to admit that I am awful at planning. Since I’m a perfectionist, planning actually stresses me out. If I make a plan, I need to follow it exactly. Otherwise, I feel like I’ve failed. Of course, that may not be you. If planning works for you, awesome!
But for all of my readers out there who also struggle with planning, here’s how to make 2018 your year. Through a bit of trial and error, I’ve discovered that developing a strong focus on what you find important is key.
Keep reading to find out just how you can do the same. I even designed a FREE printable for you to track everything fandom related in your life.
Set Intentions, Not Resolutions
I am a strong advocate for setting intentions rather than resolutions. I could never stick to my resolutions and whenever I messed up slightly, I always felt like a failure. So I’ve decided to start setting intentions instead.
After some reflection, I’ve realized that whenever I made a resolution to lose weight or to sleep better, this implies that something was wrong with my current situation. But that wasn’t entirely true. I just want to do better. Lesson Learned.
So that’s what I intend to do now.
I wish to become the version of myself when social influences are removed.
With no fear of ‘failing’, you become more daring and creative, only bound by your imagination.
Change Your Perspective
Repeat after me. There’s nothing wrong with fangirling. Zero. Zip. Nada. So get that crazy notion out of your mind right now. Because believing that there is will only keep you from experiencing life to its fullest.
As a child, I was raised to believe that fangirling was complete BS and was something only the undisciplined and obsessive indulged in. So I stayed far away from anything and everything remotely fangirlish.
But no matter how hard I tried, I always found myself drawn into certain fandoms and I began to want more than to just watch from the outskirts. So for the longest time, I thought something was wrong with me because I wanted to join the other fangirls.
Get Active on Social Media
For those who feel the need to hide their fangirling from friends and family, social media is a fantastic alternative. Hop online and you’ll quickly find yourself immersed in a whole new world where fangirling is not only accepted but encouraged.
I love live-tweeting on Twitter and Facebook groups are a great way to instantaneously find communities of people with shared interests.
Just as you would join clubs at school or in a new city, joining social media communities is no different.
Here are some of my favorite:
|FACEBOOK:||Carry On’s Supernatural Discussion||The Supernatural Friendship Project||The Fandom Life||Starfish Family|
Create a Fandom Money Fund
For many, money is a legitimate worry. I get it. When you’re stressing out about having food on the table or possibly getting evicted, it’s tough to feel like you deserve to be a fangirl, let alone to actually fangirl.
Well, my friend. Let me tell you. Just as you do with investments or college loans, treat your fandoms the same way. Create a separate account or section in your budget sheet specifically for fandom spending. Budget out a percentage of your monthly income to put towards this fund and unless you’re purchasing something fandom related, DON’T TOUCH IT!! It doesn’t have to be a large percentage of your income, you just need to treat it as another bill. Make it a mandatory investment, like rent or electricity, something that you can’t shank on.
You’ll be surprised how quickly those pennies add up.
Get Comfortable with the Uncomfortable
Finally, if you want to truly embrace your inner fangirl, you must get comfortable with the uncomfortable. I’m not talking about dipping into drugs or pulling a parkour trick because I would never want you to endanger yourself or compromise your beliefs.
No, I want you to get out of your shell.
Hate going places on your own or doing things without a friend? Time to start practicing.
The sad and uncomfortable truth about being a fangirl is that if you really want to embrace your inner fangirl, not everyone in your inner circle is going to understand or share your passion. Especially if you want to go to concerts or conventions. Like it or not, those things are expensive and you’ll be hard-pressed to convince those around you to join. Sometimes you get lucky and you’ll find someone but you can’t let this shape your decision.
Yes, it’s tough at first. But the more times you do it, the easier it will get. I promise. And if you’re desperate for some assistance, here are some great tips that I’ve outlined in this Break Through Anxiety post.
So, are you ready to embrace your inner fangirl? Do you already have some exciting events planned for 2018? Well, don’t keep them trapped in your mind! Write them down on paper and make them tangible. I am currently designing a free workbook to guide you through this entire process of embracing your inner fangirl.
For now, though, you can get a sneak peek at this fun little printable. It’s called ‘This Year in Fandom’ and is a great way to keep track of all your fandom related events. Although I love using calendars, sometimes I want to see everything I have planned for the whole year rather than month by month. This tracker will also make budgeting and future scheduling so much easier.